Teach them sexual purity!

Happy Sunday Ladies!

Part of my post is today’s message at my church and my thoughts. Enjoy.

Text was from Gen 49:3-4. It was when Jacob was giving the final words to his children. He said beautiful things about Rueben in verse 3 but placed a curse on him because Rueben defiled his father’s bed with his father’s wife.
The curse was that he will not excel. The preacher proved that Rueben didn’t excel indeed. Remember the victims of the first recorded earthquake in the Bible- Dathan &co they were Ruebenites. Infact, the earthquake was their punishment. See Moses prayer for them below before he passed on Deuteronomy 33:6 GNT

Moses said about the tribe of Reuben: “May Reuben never die out, Although their people are few.”

I’m sure you are thinking where am I going with all I’ve been sharing….
How did Reuben got to where he received a curse from his father? He was the firstborn son, the beginning of his father’s strength. He slept with one of his father’s wives. What do we see in our days? Men who have sold their souls for sexual pleasure. Rueben mortgaged his soul. He became scattered in the land. He became few to the extent that Moses prayer was for him not to die. May our sons’ destinies not be truncated, may they succeed and may they not be few in the name of Jesus.

My advice……Let’s do all we can to raise godly men, disciplined in and out. Let’s pray for them and attack any strange behavior. Don’t act like one of those people who say it’s a man’s world. Men are polygamous in nature. So, they can misbehave afterall they are not the one that will get pregnant.
Look, your son’s sexual purity is as important as your daughter’s. Afterall, it takes a boy to impregnate a girl. May God guide us and give us grace in Jesus name amen.



Happy Sunday everyone. I just feel like dropping this before I go to bed. Still on responsibility, accountability, answerability (oops) etcetera. 

I want to plead with you to stop giving excuses when men misbehave. Stop saying things like men are babies. They are not babies. They are full grown men who must take responsibilities for their actions. If you don’t stop you are indirectly raising your boys not to take responsibility for their actions.

Demand accountability, responsibility from your boys no matter how young they are. There are things they can be accountable for at their age. Don’t raise babies, raise strong men, raise responsible men, raise men who are strong in character. 

Enlist God’s help, He will never let you down.

Have a blessed week!


One of the definitions of responsible is accountable. To be accountable is to be answerable for one’s actions. You are accountable if you own up what you have done and you can answer or explain them to someone, at least.
A man who is accountable will give thought to his actions knowing fully well that he will have to answer or explain his actions later. This is a good thing!
Accountability is definitely one of the qualities we need to instil in our boys.
I had the opportunity to teach my son to be careful about his actions this week. He chose to run around the house after his bedtime so, he was looking well rested the following morning. I told him that every action have consequences and he must remember that at all times.
I will create opportunity and continue to look out for opportunities to teach him about responsibility.
For now, my sons should be accountable to me and their dad. I try to create opportunities for that by listening attentively and providing answers to all their questions. So, help me God!

I really want to hear from you. In what ways have you taught your boys to be responsible? In what ways can we teach them to be accountable?


Good evening great Momma of Boys! We are going to be looking at the word ‘responsibility’ in the next few days. What does it mean to you? When we say a man is responsible, what exactly does it mean? Responsibility according to my dictionary is the state or act of being responsible (funny definition…lol) while responsible means the following;
1. Liable to be required to give account, as of one’s actions or of the discharge of a duty or trust.
2. Involving personal accountability or ability to act without guidance or superior authority e.g. a responsible position within the firm.
3. Being a source or cause.
4. Able to make moral or rational decisions on one’s own and therefore answerable for one’s behavior.
5. Able to be trusted or depended upon that is, reliable.
6. Based on or characterized by good judgment or sound thinking e.g. responsible journalism.
7. Having the means to pay debts or fulfill obligations.
I know many of us want to raise boys that will grow up to become reliable, accountable, trustworthy and rational men. What practical ways can we achieve this? Kindly share what is working for you or what worked for you or someone you know like your mum, aunt etc.
Let’s talk, Mommas