I had a very brief converstion with a boy of about 10 or 11 years old. He approached me to clean the wind shield of my car during a brief traffic stop at Bori Camp junction in Port Harcourt.
I declined his offer to clean the windshield so, he asked that I give him money to buy food. You see, I am always curious about the boys who clean windshields or just loiter around in major busstops and along major roads selling wares in traffic. So, I asked about his parents and he said he doesn’t have. It was just him and his brother who was somewhere down the road that live together.
He said something that touched me. He said if I have a father, I won’t be here. We didn’t talk long enough for me to ask whether his parents were dead or unavailable but one thing is sure, that boy had no parental supervision.
There are many fathers who are alive but missing from the lives of their children. They fail to show up for their children in school, at home and in the society in general. The only contribution they have in their children’s lives is just the seeds donated before conception.
We all have to make a difference in the next generation by teaching our sons to be responsible from their young age. Teach your sons to be responsible for their younger ones within their capacity. Praise them generously if they went out of their way to care for their little ones- siblings or cousins within or outside the home.
Even if they have not had the best example at home, they can learn from you through positive reinforcement when they have demonstrated responsibility no matter how little.